About me

I help couples like you who feel like they’ve lost each other and honestly, themselves.
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Maybe you're still over functioning doing the dance that is modern day life: raising kids, managing a home, building a career and from the outside, everything looks fine. You’re the couple people admire.
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 But behind closed doors? It’s a different story.
There’s tension that simmers under every conversation.
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Arguments that loop without resolution.
Moments that used to feel light now feel loaded. NO ONE is fun anymore and you find yourself wondering where that partnership you were signing up for even went.
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I get it because I have walked this path myself. My own history and life experiences brought times that I felt shame around feeling as if “I should have known better”. I believed that the problem must have been something I was lacking. The more I pushed to control the anxiety by controlling my environment the more irritable I became. I know that there are days when it feels hopeless and easier to stay disconnected and feel nothing. So when we work together, you won’t just get a trained therapist. You’ll get someone who truly understands what you’re going through.
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Many of today’s solutions for these issues are one-size-fits approaches which can leave people feeling as if they forever need to improve themselves. There is always a new morning routine to master and some perfect 10-step plan to reconnect with yourself or your partner. Ugh - no thank you. This work is about connection but first and foremost it is about regaining trust in yourself because from there you can build the tools to create the life you want on your own timeline.
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I approach therapy from a holistic point of view. Looking at all parts for you. We discuss our physical health, neurological, emotional, spiritual, and energetic health. The mind-body connection is not some fancy catchphrase- it is an important regulatory system that we can use to learn how to thrive in life.

-Mary M Sanker, LPCC/LCMHC